How To Get Your Ex Back After a Long Time of No Contact

Do you miss the good times? You probably are and that's why you are here. Even though you’ve had a break-up, you still have not figured out how to get over the person neither do you know where to start to win back your long time love. I don't blame you, who wouldn't? What you had together was priceless and you can't erase those memories.

It's been how long now? Several months or is it years and worse still you have had no contact whatsoever during the time you were both apart. The very thought on your mind is would your Ex want you back after such a long time. You should really think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they will be now. Try to be as unbiased as you can. You might decide that the break-up really isn’t a bad idea. But remember after the long thought, your decision will make or mar the relationship from this point on.

If you decide to try to win back a long lost love, the first step is to apologize. You might think well I have already done this. You might have said you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop a break-up, he or she might not think the apology was sincere.

If you were the one who did something that you need to apologize for, apologize again. Now they might think the apology is sincere, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won’t be saying it only to save it but they will believe that you really mean it. (And hopefully, you do.)

When your ex was the one who did something worth apologizing for, then rather than try to get a sincere apology from them, forgive them. You may never forget, especially if your break-up was because of cheating, but you must learn to forgive. Forgiving is much harder for some of us than merely saying, “I forgive you,” though, so you might want to read a book or two on forgiveness and how to really mean it. If you want to win back lost love, this step will help you do it. And it can help prevent problems in the future, too.

If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or 9 months into the newly patched relationship, old issues might come up. If you haven’t forgiven the person for whatever was done to break up the relationship, then you might have a hard time getting past everything. Old wounds would be reopened and it’s likely that hurtful things would be said.

But if you can truly forgive the person, then there won’t be any need to rehash the past. While you’re working on forgiving him or her for whatever happened to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you’ll save yourself lots of grief down the road.

Also, to win back lost love, show the person the "you" they fell in love with, not the “you” that has been dumped. They were with you because you have certain qualities—kindness, thoughtfulness—not because you’re angry, jealous or hurt. While you might not be able to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best "you" you can possibly be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.

Remember, If you do get your Ex back after such a long time, things will never be the same as they were. Try not to dig up the past, don't worry about what each other have done. Treat it as a new relationship and since you both know your likes and dislikes it will be your chance for a very romantic fresh start!

But wait before you get carried away, you need to contact your Ex first, watch this short video to learn the exact words to say when you pick up the phone to connect with them again, trust me you do not want to spoil this move.